writing

smog

smog

how fitting that it was four o’clock all day,

my least favorite time - it was just

dim, like the sun never rose or set. 

it rained ash and we all were so sorry 

that we hadn’t tried a little sooner, a little harder,

to save ourselves from Mars.

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i found a polaroid of our best boy in your glovebox,

a cheap pocket-watch hidden in your dresser drawer,

a book of mine that you borrowed for a road-trip - 

the second or third copy, well-loved, 

some notes you wrote to yourself last week, 

saying just GO, don't look back

tenement

Photo by Dave Glass, Creative Commons license

Photo by Dave Glass, Creative Commons license

tenement

there is something like relief

when finally, the bad thing happens

and you’re bone on bone,

languishing, vindicated.

you could have just said, i’m unhappy -

stuck around long enough

to see me wilt under my own heady

confidence, my need to mother.











signs of life

signs of life


sunday you are fucked sideways,

choke me out until

i see stars

in the back room

 

come monday, you are

tight as a drum -

bang bang banging

your breast and mine

 

tuesday night i am

all idioms and bravado -

you quiet my ugly

thigh and laugh

 

by wednesday, we're

crazed unhinged on pills

i'm trampled by elephants

eaten by moths

the one where even my transcendental crisis is pathetic

the one where i unravel myself as a navel gazing, compulsive bitch. the one where i'm a histrionic slut. the one where i acknowledge that i'm feeding the beast and i like it. the one where i can't commit. the one where i act out of fear - forever and ever. the one where i start blogging again but it's trite. the one where you point out my flaws and i'm defensive. the one where i try on your glasses and live in someone else's skin. the one where you're too self involved to notice. the one where i cop out and free associate. the one where i run away forever. the one where i fuck someone in costa rica in a bed of money. the one where my kids point out my flaws. the one where i've die before i go there. the one where i am reborn, a woman. the one where i send and receive secret messages. the one where i assign meaning to meaningless things. the one where i'm a muse. the one where i miss my old saggy tits. the one where i reimagine myself as i was at 15. the one where i snow my psychiatrist. the one where you dress me down. the one where i show up naked. the one where i'm drunk at nine am. the one where i miss somewhere i haven't been before. the one where i use old formats as a new crutch. the one where my customer service sucks. the one where i'm better than you. the one where bodies don't mean anything. the one where i cry out for you. the one where you don't notice me. the one where my life is an exercise in self control. the one where i judge you. the one where i make the right choice. the one where i can't even commit to a tense. the one where i assign value to valueless things. the one where i listen to red house painters until my ears bleed and i cease to exist. the one where there's flowers in my drink. the one where i remember it's just a body. the one where i realize it doesn't really matter. the one where i press my face against the speaker. the one where i tell a lie. the one where i eat the note you left in my purse. the one where your face burns red. the one where i'm in a room where all i feel is the cold that you left. the one where i blame you for the position i'm in. the one where i abandon symbolism forever. the one where you've already stopped reading. the one where sex is a crutch. the one where i'm the illustrated woman. the one where i dream you've beaten me senseless. the one where you bear witness. the one where i was doing fine without it. the one where i made different choices. the one where i divorce myself of all of this. the one where i shave my head. the one where everything waxes and wanes. the one where i'm only tangentially here. the one where i'm sea glass. the one where i can't even right now. the one where you paint me as i am. the one where i the one where i the one where i i i i i return to navel gazing afterall.

a letter to my cousin on his 22nd bithday

the day i almost died wasn't the day, shortly after my 16th birthday, that i got t-boned and nearly crushed by the steel door of my 1982 bmw. it wasn't any of the days in high school that i thought i'd be better off dead but was too scared to formulate anything more than a vague plan. it wasn't for that matter, any of the days of cancer and chemotherapy and radiation or the day, years later, that i decided to have my tits cut off and woke up, after 8 hours of surgery, wondering where the hell i was and what the hell i'd done. the day i almost died was the sunday after thanksgiving, november 26th, 2006.

that morning, when rory quietly walked away, i almost broke in half and died. and then, that night, when i realized he was never coming back, i did break in half. and then i broke in half again and again and again for days and days and days until i was tiny grains of sand and i couldn't break anymore. it wasn't pretty. at all. it was drained bank accounts and mistresses and lies heaped upon lies. it was my parents sleeping on the floor of my living room because i was too immobilized to be alone with the kids. it was legal papers and process servers and years of protracted proceedings. it was wishing and regretting and begging and negotiating. it was the world's saddest christmas and a shaved head. it was talking and writing about what i was thinking and feeling, endlessly. endlessly. i can remember every single moment of it and none of it at all.

looking back, almost 9 years later, that day, all those days that i almost died, crystallize to one conversation, one word. integrity. maybe it was just profound to me in hindsight, but sometime during the divorce i had a talk (okay, a million talks) with my dad about what i could control. namely myself, and my own behavior and nothing else. and integrity became the guiding principle of my life the moment he spoke the word. act with integrity. even when you don't want to. even when it would be easier not to. even when you want to be petty. have integrity. you will never be sorry.


San Luis Reservoir

san luis reservoir

we should have let you choke,

let the tarantulas carry your body

underground, away from us

our babies are big now,

they pee on the roadside,

chase stray dogs, unabashedly

we aren't afraid of this desert moonscape anymore -

paul simon rejoices,

joyfully drowns you out