maria has breast cancer, aggressive, triple negative, but early-ish. friday she starts chemotherapy. then, at some point, she’ll have a mastectomy. I feel like I'm watching from somewhere outside myself. i want grip everyone by the collar and shake: this should be rote by now. it’s just the other shoe dropping, as shoes do. suck it up. we’ve been here before. of course you’re changed forever. of course people see cancer now. you are cancer now. suck it up. this isn’t special. you aren’t special. you aren’t fucking special. you’ll live.
brains are so fucking good at protecting us from the things we don’t want to face. protecting us from confronting the reality that watching our parents eventually die is far more terrifying than dying ourselves. because some of us were under the impression we would die first. not usher our parents from whatever this is to the inevitable nothing. your aren't fucking special. you’ll die.