This r person seems really superficial and hedonistic. The questions I have for you are these: Was he always like this ? What were the earliest signs ? What do you think happened to make him that way ? If he is superficial and shallow what were you doing with him ? IS there something about you that might be attracted to the 'bad boy' or the unobtainable carefree type ? - gentleman scholar
this was a really interesting comment and i'd love for some of the people that have known r and me to speak to the questions.
from my point of view, no, he was not always like this. at all. he was a very easy-going, caring, selfless, and comfortable in his own skin kind of guy. i'm not at ALL attracted to bad boys...i am such a practical person, especially since i've had kids.
oops, gotta come back to this.