broached this subject jokily with danny, who is squeamish and doesn't like to face the scary, fully expecting to be tackled while he screamed 'noooooooo!' not so. 'so they'll chop your boobs off?' yup. 'and give you new ones?' yup. 'cool.' wha-wha-what? cool indeed. we'll see who thinks it's cool when he's changing my drains. and he thought the colposcopy was bad!
then today (after calling the doc to schedule an initial appointment) all casual like, i texted rory.
me: do you have any major trips planned this calendar year?
him: maybe take the kids to disneyland in 5-6 months. why?
me: (wow, things have changed in the last six months.) i'm planning on having a bilateral prophylactic mastectomy with reconstruction which is going to mean some down time with no lifting. i'm having a preliminary appt. and wanted to take as many calenders into account as possible.
him: can we talk about this later?
me: sure, didn't intend this to be a convo! sorry, i forget people have desk jobs!
him: honestly, it's a little upsetting, we can talk later.
now granted i just laid it out for him but *he* is upset? didn't see that coming.