bk stopped by on monday and brought dinner for the kids, d, my mom and i. *scratches head* he said he thought we were coming back on wednesday and that he had made plans to work late. in any case, i offered him tuesday/wednesday since he only stayed about 10 minutes but he said he'd have to 'check the calendar.'
then yesterday he called during naps and asked if i had a second to talk. he was pissed because we're 'always out of town on his visitation days and that was one of the things you brought up in court.' i managed to stay calm and told him that i didn't appreciate a pissy call out of the blue when he'd clearly been getting upset for days. i reminded him that he was always welcome to ask for extra days and that we'd only been out of town one weekend during this whole summer. he wanted to know why we didn't go in the middle of the week. it was a family reunion. p has summer camp. i have a JOB. you were out of town the previous weekend. we switched for the 4th of july. (i didn't mention the dozens and dozens of times he's cancelled/changed plans where my plans got completely out of wack.) i'm completely willing to be flexible when out of the ordinary things occur, like this, but i'm not willing to change things on a weekly basis. he's taking them a couple of extra days next week to make up for what he missed because we were in oregon. and ohbytheway, he's going to have to drop fridays because he's going to start working those nights...
then yesterday he called during naps and asked if i had a second to talk. he was pissed because we're 'always out of town on his visitation days and that was one of the things you brought up in court.' i managed to stay calm and told him that i didn't appreciate a pissy call out of the blue when he'd clearly been getting upset for days. i reminded him that he was always welcome to ask for extra days and that we'd only been out of town one weekend during this whole summer. he wanted to know why we didn't go in the middle of the week. it was a family reunion. p has summer camp. i have a JOB. you were out of town the previous weekend. we switched for the 4th of july. (i didn't mention the dozens and dozens of times he's cancelled/changed plans where my plans got completely out of wack.) i'm completely willing to be flexible when out of the ordinary things occur, like this, but i'm not willing to change things on a weekly basis. he's taking them a couple of extra days next week to make up for what he missed because we were in oregon. and ohbytheway, he's going to have to drop fridays because he's going to start working those nights...
take your visitation. use 100% of it. love on those little kiddos and keep your promises to them (and me if you're feeling generous). if i take the kids on a rare getaway, ask for another day. don't make this about how much you can prove in court (i've got it written down anyway). make it about spending time with them for time's sake because it's what's good and right.