i feel i need to speak to the "ow" (other woman) factor. there have been several comments about her. i don't blame her. i blame r. i think she is using very poor judgement to get involved with a man with a wife (YES r, we are STILL married) and two small children. but ultimately, this is r's doing. the issue of introducing her to the kids doesn't really have anything to do with the affair or my feelings about it. our daughter is still reeling from the changes that have already happened. she doesn't need the grown-ups in her life complicating the situation further. she doesn't need to form an attachment (right now) to a woman who may or may not be around later on.