r and i NEVER argued about money. until now. things change when a) money is really really tight b) you're worried that the other person is trying to screw you out of what is rightfully yours. the plot thickens when your stbx who used to be quite the feminist, becomes a chauvinist. he seems to think that when it comes to compensation my job has no actual ($$$) value and the money he makes at his "real" job is his alone. like he's doing me some huge favour by giving me barely enough to feed and shelter the kids. (and don't anyone tell me to quit whining/get a lawyer, these things take time and i've got everything under control).
then of course there is the matter of the kids. last friday we agreed that he would have visitation on monday (5.30-8.00), wednesday (11.00-3.00) and sunday (11.00-2.00). yesterday when he came over he asked to change this wednesday to dinner time instead. he wants to be able to go fishing and have his days free. and next week he is going on an overnight fishing trip so he's coming on tuesday instead. and actually wednesday nights are just going to be better all around. except for one wednesday a week when he'll come during the day, like we PLANNED. god forbid i have some predictability.
then of course there is the matter of the kids. last friday we agreed that he would have visitation on monday (5.30-8.00), wednesday (11.00-3.00) and sunday (11.00-2.00). yesterday when he came over he asked to change this wednesday to dinner time instead. he wants to be able to go fishing and have his days free. and next week he is going on an overnight fishing trip so he's coming on tuesday instead. and actually wednesday nights are just going to be better all around. except for one wednesday a week when he'll come during the day, like we PLANNED. god forbid i have some predictability.