i was going to go into a long explanation of how yes, d lives with us and of course contributes to the household in a dramatic way but how it isn't his responsibility to care for the kids financially when they have a father who is around too...but then i realized that i don't need to convince anyone of anything. you're going to think what you want. this isn't a contest to see who leads the most destitute life: i know it isn't me. my financial poition has improved significantly over the past 6 months. me complaining about not getting my c/s, a LARGE chunk of my income, is not me asking for help, it's me being frusterated that i still can't count on bk to be true to his word...

that said, i won't be hosting discussion of my finances or legal issues here any more. comments will not be published. i've not asked for any help, so ya'll can just assume i don't need it. if i buy something, assume i have the money for it since i won't use credit. i'm not going to defend my actions anymore. if you regret helping in some way in the past, please send me an email so that i can pay you back, like i would with any loan. otherwise, enough is enough.